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Am I Enough?
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Many of us believe "We Are NOT ENOUGH!"
Beautiful aqua blue cocktail……or not????
Our senses help transmit information to the brain. I looked at the ingredients on the cocktail menu for this beautiful cocktail: vanilla vodka, Mozart chocolate liqueur, glitter, maraschino. I couldn’t wait to taste my cocktail.
When I saw the cocktail all pretty and aqua blue in colour I thought to myself, ”hmmm they’ve got the order wrong!” However beautiful the cocktail looked, it wasn’t what I had perceived. I thought I’d be drinking a creamy, chocolatey, cherry flavoured drink (well at least a few maraschino cherries!), however when I took a sip, I was very disappointed, it was like drinking neat vodka, YUCK!
I suppose what I’m trying to explain is what we see and what we perceive can be very different. We all wear a mask at times smile and laugh when all we want to do is cry. We wish to be someone else as they appear to have the dream lifestyle or body we desire. We feel we are not enough.
So many of us go through life thinking we aren’t enough because of our “programming”. Next time you tell yourself “I’m too fat” or “I wish I was as pretty as….”Ask yourself "What does being GOOD ENOUGH look like to you?” Separate from what anyone else thinks?
It’s a really tough question because most of us base this answer on what other people think of us, instead of what you know to be true. So here’s 5 daily practices to feeling "good enough" separate from what anyone else thinks of you:
1. Let Go of the Approval of Others
Do you know how much time. Shoot me now. Who cares? If you're living your life with integrity and being true to yourself and what you know makes you happy, then do it. Stop worrying about what other people are saying about you and what they think. Everyone has an opinion but that doesn’t make it your reality!
2. Be Your Best Self Every day
My best self looks different from your best self. For me, exercising 6 days a week makes me feel good and gets me ready for the day. For you, walking the dogs 3 times a week makes you feel good as you have time to clear your thoughts on a long leisurely walk or you give 100 percent to your work, children, and the people you care about in your life so you have something to feel good about.
3. Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People
This is my biggest crime and possibly yours. The one that typically puts most of us in the rabbit hole. There is always going to be someone else who makes more money, lives in a bigger house, has what you think is a happier relationship, better behaved children or a better body. Feeling good enough means using ME as the bar not somebody else.
4. Keep a Gratitude Journal
No matter how bad your day is, at the end of it find at least 5 things you’re grateful for. It might be as simple as, "I have a roof over my head," to "I have enough money for the bills this month!”
5. Surround Yourself With People Who Truly Love You
If you want to ascertain the "good enough "feeling? Surround yourself with people who think you are amazing. People who laugh at your jokes. Adore your little quirks... value your opinion and ask your advice. Family members who stick by you even on your worst day. Your best friends who pull you out of the rabbit hole when you've slipped down again and remind you what a beautiful, funny, intelligent, strong, amazing, phenomenal person you are. With them in your life, you'll always feel "good enough."
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